All About Estates

A Goodbye without Good Planning

This blog has been written by Sandra Arsenault, Law Clerk at Fasken LLP

Never again, your voice will we hear,

When we pick up the phone, and your number we dial.

Never again, will we kiss your soft cheek,

Listen to your chuckle, or share a knowing smile.

Your grandkids won’t feel your warm loving hugs,

Or run through your beautiful garden full of flowers and bugs.

You enjoyed a whodunit and a hot cup of tea.

Had a fun sense of humour…some might say mischievous and witty.

That terrible disease, it took you away from us.

We want to think only the best, so I’m trying hard not to cuss.

But oh the mess of affairs you did leave.

How can we sort this all out, while we’re still trying to grieve?

What made you think a Will Kit was best?

Did you not think to reconsider, before we laid you to rest?

All of those years,

So smugly you thought,

My intentions are clear,

My ex will get not.

All of my worldly belongings,

And all of my earthly things,

Left equally to my kids.

All’s taken care of; even the rings.

No need to update it,

Nothing has changed.

They’ll know in good time,

Even though I have aged.

So smart, so economical

Indeed, you may have thought.

Too bad for you, and for us…

…your signature you forgot!


My dear mother-in-law passed away recently and I share this in memory of her.

I send out this poem in love and frustration.

I send it as a reminder to please review and update your Wills.

Ask your loved ones about their Wills.

Check to make sure they are done properly.

Ask where the original is kept.

And please spare your family the trouble and never, ever use a DIY Will Kit.

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  1. Audrey Miller

    September 1, 2023 - 1:43 pm

    My sympathies Sandra. A lovely poem with a strong message. Well said!

    • Fasken

      September 1, 2023 - 4:05 pm

      Thank you Audrey. Much appreciated.

  2. walter viner

    September 1, 2023 - 2:55 pm

    WOW , So well said and honest.
    Too bad it had to be written

    • Fasken

      September 1, 2023 - 4:05 pm

      Thank you, Walter. I agree!

  3. Dr. Evelyn C. Adams

    September 1, 2023 - 9:55 pm

    Will is done and up to date. Now to make a list of all digital platforms and social media, list of contents and name who is to receive them, same with personal items or family heirlooms. Now to update profile for the obit., review instructions for “remains” .
    Now –to look at life and make it known in writing, how I want to be looked after should I be in a condition to have to leave my home. It is also important for me to think and decide if I want to be designated as a “DNR” [do not resuscitate] should a severe problem arise. Then I need to place in an envelope at the side of my fridge what my meds are, my history and DNR decision in case I can not speak for myself. I WISH TO BE REMEMBERED THAT I DID LEAVE CLEAR INSTRUCTIONS.

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