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Mementos and good memories

We will all experience loss of a loved one and while my loss may be more recent than some, it can make these occurrences feel more vivid.

Over the weekend I received the many boxes that I had packed up from my mother’s apartment.  While I started to sort them through I was overcome by the scent of her favorite perfume. It was reassuring and familiar and yet quite emotional.

This was obviously a time for reflection and memory overload. For me, at this time in my life, it was actually a positive experience.   We have items and tokens that we hold on to, that remind us of the original keeper/owner of said item. As we look at them, use them or hold them, it will hopefully bring back positive and warm thoughts, reflections and memories of time shared together.  I can’t change the past but I do have some say in how I live my life today and how I choose to experience things.  Certainly my relationship with my mother wasn’t always as positive as it was most recently. While I was a teenager, we certainly had our struggles; but with maturity, time and distance, things look and feel different.  These items can certainly trigger memories and I hope to be able to continue to feel the warmth that I do today when I use/see them tomorrow.

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About Audrey Miller
About: Audrey Miller, Managing Director of Elder Caring Inc. has over 30 years social work and rehabilitation experience working with older individuals and their families. She advises the financial, insurance, legal and business communities regarding elder care issues. Audrey is a recognized expert in her field. Email:


  1. Ken MacCoy

    July 28, 2020 - 1:57 pm

    An excellent article Audrey Miller. In fact it reminds me of and could have been written about my mother and myself.

  2. Ken MacCoy, CHS

    July 28, 2020 - 2:01 pm

    An excellent article Audrey Miller. In fact, it reminds me of and could have been written about my mother and myself.

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