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T’was the Fight Before Christmas

Where has the time gone? Have you noticed that the older one gets the faster time is? I can’t believe we are almost at the end of 2018. Upon reflection, it has been a whirlwind year. My work takes me into the lives of many individuals who may be in a state of crisis by the time they reach out for assistance. Many are fighting with their families and many are dealing with health and aging challenges that can feel overwhelming. I hope that these blogs have provided some tips and helpful knowledge for you and have provided some support/guidance along the way. I am very grateful to be part of your journey. At this time of year, however or whatever you celebrate, I hope you have friends and family with you.

As part of holiday tradition and back by popular demand I am reposting my holiday jingle. It is written with the best of intent and I hope will make you smile.

T’was the fight before Christmas, when all families know,
It’s better to forgive than tell them to F. O.,
Mom probably liked you better, if memory serves,
So while I am a P.O.A., she will get what she deserves

Come on siblings and get off your butts,
I need alittle help, ‘cause I really am going nuts,
I am pulled in many directions, with no time for my own,
Let’s hire an expert who we can speak with by phone

This Plan will save time and money and help us agree,
We can all care for Mom, in addition to me!
A Plan of Care will outline Mom’s needs,
Working together, we all will succeed

All families are strange, of this I am sure,
Now where did we put Elder Caring’s brochure?
Some guidance is needed to keep mom from harm
‘Cause with caregiver burnout, I’ve nearly bought the farm

I won’t wait this time, I will call them right now
Professional counsellors will give me know- how
I found it along with various papers
Advanced directives, wills, now finally some answers!

Meeting a counsellor, has made it much easier
I now have perspective on how to proceed
Hiring a caregiver is just what I need!
Alittle respite will go a long way
Of keeping my sanity day after day

Why did I wait? I really don’t know
We are living to 100 and there’s a long way to go
Having knowledge and resources makes it much easier
And learning when to say Yes and how to say NO!

Our government tells us, we should be aware
For those less fortunate, it may not be fair
Our society is aging and we all will need care
Live with your children? A threat or a dare?

Dementia is scary, forgetting all we know
The best is to love but how can we let go?
I too am part of the boomers, still looking ahead
One needs to be positive, no point feeling dread

We’ve had the talk and filled out the Binder
Make sure your wishes are clear- just a reminder
What’s ahead for us all, we really don’t know
I hope to have the choice when it’s my time to go

Planning ahead – my message is clear
Keep talking to your family and loving them dear

Our very best for a healthy 2019.

About Audrey Miller
About: Audrey Miller, Managing Director of Elder Caring Inc. has over 30 years social work and rehabilitation experience working with older individuals and their families. She advises the financial, insurance, legal and business communities regarding elder care issues. Audrey is a recognized expert in her field. Email:


  1. Charles O'Neil

    December 24, 2018 - 2:23 pm

    Audrey, thank you for your thoughtful and thought-provoking articles. I so enjoy reading of your experiences helping families facing uncertainty and crisis. Keep up the good work. As a charitable gift planner I can relate to many of your stories.

    Charles O’Neil
    QEII Health Sciences Centre Foundation
    Halifax, NS

  2. Dorothy Hagel

    December 24, 2018 - 3:51 pm

    I am glad that there is someone else that notices the time going faster as we get older. I thought this was only me. Thank you for this article.

  3. Karen Kutner

    December 24, 2018 - 5:07 pm

    Great Holiday poem, I hope that you have a wonderful Christmas and Happy New year!

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